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The
Pit of the Ex-Boyfriend
It’s
been a few weeks now since you parted ways. The reason for your break-up
was the same reason you and he got together in the first place - you're
a woman, and he's a man! Luckily
your friends were there to aid you through the soggy pillows and empty
shot glasses. You hate him, and then hate yourself.
Eventually the anger fades … and then you miss the bastard!
For
anyone who has loved and was loved in return, the next worse thing to
being dumped is actually longing to be with the old oaf again. Especially
when the holidays, and special events, start creeping up from behind you.
Christmas and Valentine’s Day are the dumped-and-single’s worst
nightmare. But like all days, they too pass …
and eventually you are free again to live your life without the
constant taunting of your friends about you being unattached.
You do not despise them for constantly reminding you about such
things. You find them
amusing, especially when they begin playing Cupid for you with some
hapless guy who only agreed because they owed your friend a favour.
No, they don’t bother you at all.
It
is when you lie down in your soft bed, alone and thinking.
It is when you begin to miss him that your heart descends to that deadly
pit of the ex-boyfriend. It
is then, that you truly begin to fear for yourself the most.
The
experience of the pit varies from woman to woman.
But it usually happens as such: everything passes by in your
mind’s eye like a movie … the first time you met, the first hello, the
first laugh, the first kiss. You
smile and hug your pillow closer. Memories begin to flood your head, as
you recall how sweet things were between the two of you.
And then for a minute or so, you are tempted to call him, or even
send him a text message. Such
is the power of temptation, and of loneliness.
But stop right there, girl!
Wasn’t
he the one who made you cry and suffer unjustly?
Wasn’t he the one you caught exchanging glances with a
flirty-looking officemate of his? Didn’t
you catch him sending a sweet message to a certain “Tammy”?
Wasn’t he the one you caught making out with a girl in the
parking lot? Didn’t he try to turn the story around by saying it was
your fault, because you were busy with work and didn’t have time for
him? He even used the
“I’m only human!” line with you.
How dare he! What a
snake!
Yet
you thought of forgiving him. Maybe you made a mistake of breaking up with him?
Maybe you didn’t give him enough time?
But then your heart feels like it’s being crushed remembering
what he did to you. You cry
your eyes out and cringe. You pound your fist on the bed, and choke on
your tears. You cry to heaven to take the pain away, like so many times
before.
After
a while you will start to feel better.
A warm glow casts it’s awakening light inside you, even before
you start to press your speed dial to his number.
“He is not worth it,” you say to yourself.
“I’m too much of a woman for him. What he needs is a dumb girl
with a big pair of knockers, and a pea-sized brain where he can flush all
his inadequacies and immaturity.” You
hope he gets what he deserves.
Before
long, you realize that you have climbed out of the pit of your
ex-boyfriend. You are reborn and, like the phoenix, live and love another
day with more radiance and beauty. He
doesn’t matter anymore. He
has become a fleeting memory, just another story to tell your future kids
someday. Then you nod off and
sleep soundly, dreaming of a faceless man making love to you, and sharing
your life in fidelity, love, respect and trust.
The
ex-boyfriend can teach us a lot about ourselves, and what we become when
we fall in love. The hardest
part is letting go when it is over. I’d
rather be with a faceless man in my dreams, than be in the arms of a
treacherous snake in real life. Finding
the right man is a lesson in trial and error.
We can never forget the ex-boyfriend, but we must refuse to succumb
to his temptation of return. There
are other places we can find love. Not
just in men, but in other hearts. All
we have to do is have faith in love and, almost always, true love finds
its way to us in its own time and place.
Wedding Kiss (AP-Canv)
Gamboa, Consuelo
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Reviews
(applause received) 
anna liza
Philippines
"thank u for that
article,it really enlightened me,ex boyfriend must be dumped.I
can find someone better than him who will give me importance."
Anna
Australia
I just read your short story, it was like you were inside my head. Sometimes when your in that dark and lonley pit you just need someone to snap you out of it. Thanks, your right he so doesn't deserve me and I will find true love in all its many forms.
Great story, you really do have an very readable style with your writing.
arvee
Philippines
"great work! i can so relate!"
arvee
Philippines
"very nice
kathy! kudos!"
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